Raising a high-energy child can be an exciting experience filled with joy, laughter, and boundless curiosity. However, it can also present unique challenges that sometimes leave caregivers feeling a bit overwhelmed. If you’ve ever wondered whether your child fits the high-energy profile and how to best support their vibrant spirit, understanding their key characteristics and knowing effective strategies can make all the difference.
To better understand what defines a high-energy child and how to best support them, we spoke with Dr. Carolyn Kippes, MD, a specialist in developmental and behavioral pediatrics at Sanford Health. According to Dr. Kippes, high-energy children are typically always on the move, exhibiting a level of activity that surpasses that of their peers. She explains, “These children may seek out sensory input – such as deep pressure, climbing and jumping and going fast. They may be daredevils.” They may also have difficulty settling down at night. Their persistence can be remarkable; they often push for what they want and may struggle to accept "no" for an answer. She adds that these children “may have big feelings – whether it be happy, sad, scared or angry.” Recognizing these traits can help you understand your child’s behavior better and respond more effectively.
Navigating life with a high-energy child can be rewarding but requires some thoughtful strategies. Dr. Kippes suggests the following:
1. Set Consistent Limits
Establish clear rules and stick to them. Consistency is key for all children, especially those with high energy. When they know what to expect, it helps them feel secure. Dr. Kippes states, “Consistency with limit setting is best for all children, especially high-energy children. Offer activities that provide mental stimulation, such as board game, puzzles, hands-on activities to engage their brains.”
2. Encourage Self-Calming Techniques
Recognize that your child’s energy and feelings are out of their control. Using strategies to help with self-calming are good to practice. Dr. Kippes explains, “Taking deep breaths can be hard to do when the child is upset. However, practicing 'blowing bubbles' using your finger as a pretend bubble wand when the child is calm can prepare them to use this skill when they are upset.” If you’re looking for ways to help your kiddo keep calm, check out our My Keep Cool Cards to help them cope with big feelings in a healthy way.
3. Self-Regulation Through Heavy Work Activities
According to Dr. Kippes, high-energy kids benefit from daily movement and time playing outside. She notes, “Heavy work activities can be very helpful for these children to help regulate their ‘engine’. These are activities that include pushing, lifting, pulling, carrying, chewing, jumping, squeezing, brushing and climbing.” Examples include wall push-ups/chair push-ups, pushing a box filled with toys or a laundry basket full of towels across the floor, pulling a wagon or sled, tug of war, trampoline, jumping jacks, carry a stack of books or a tote bag and chewing gum. To continue keeping your kiddos active, try our fitBoost activity.
4. Focus on Consequences, Not Punishment
Dr. Kippes explains, “Punishment will not reduce the high energy level. However, consequences are needed to help children follow rules.” By helping your child understand the impact of their actions, you guide them toward making better choices.
As important as it is to create a supportive environment at home, advocating for your high-energy child in the school setting is equally important. School environments significantly influence a child’s ability to focus, learn, and interact with peers. Dr. Kippes emphasizes that caregivers should maintain open communication with the education team to discuss their child’s unique energy levels and explore supportive strategies, such as sensory breaks, which can help them recharge throughout the day. She adds, “However, if focus and attention are a concern or if behaviors are disruptive to the classroom, an evaluation for ADHD is recommended.” By taking these proactive steps, you can help ensure your child receives the support and accommodations they need to thrive both academically and socially.
Parenting a high-energy child is all about understanding their unique needs and finding effective strategies to support them. By recognizing their characteristics, setting consistent limits, and engaging them in the right activities, you can create a nurturing environment where they can flourish!
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