The back‑to‑school season arrives with a mix of excitement, nerves, and big changes – not just for kids, but for caregivers too. Each new school year brings fresh routines, new environments, and shifting expectations, and for many children, that sudden transition can feel overwhelming. That is exactly why intentional conversations matter so much as kids prepare for school. They help kids feel grounded, understood, and emotionally prepared for what is ahead.
To better understand what children experience during this time of year, and how caregivers can support them through meaningful dialogue, we spoke with Brittney Nathan, CCLS, Lead Program Development Specialist at Sanford fit.
Why the Back‑to‑School Transition Feels So Big
The shift from summer to school is not just a change in schedule, it is a full‑body, full‑life transition for kids. Brittney explains, “The back-to-school transition is unique because it is a completely comprehensive shift in a child’s life which occurs suddenly, and also, year after year.” She continues, “Within this transition a child is experiencing a change in their physical environment, cognitive and social expectations, daily routines, circle of trusted adults, etc. This sharp pivot is truly all consuming for one’s nervous system and should be acknowledged and supported as such.”
The Emotional Mix Kids Carry into a New School Year
Back‑to‑school season often brings a swirl of emotions that kids may not fully understand why they are feeling so much at once or be developmentally equipped to manage yet independently. Brittney notes that children feel safest when they are informed, in control, and know what to expect. “Change deprives kids of one or all of these comforts. And a massive transition-like back-to-school season, will undoubtedly bring waves of complex emotions,” she says. “Normal and very valid emotions kids can experience may include- excitement, nervousness, reluctance, fatigue, happiness and self-doubt,” adds Brittney. These emotions can coexist, overlap, and change by the hour. The key is that caregivers do not minimize any of these emotions, rather lean in, listen, validate, and offer support.
Why Conversations Matter and How They Strengthen Connection
“Open and honest dialogue between kids and caregivers, especially when it comes to challenging and vulnerable topics, provides children with a safe space for their emotions. You become a sort of emotional anchor within a stage of life that can feel so scary and overwhelming,” highlights Brittney.
Conversation Starters to Prep Kids for School
Back‑to‑school conversation starters are one of the best tools caregivers can use to help kids feel emotionally prepared and practically ready for the year ahead. These simple, thoughtful questions give children space to share their feelings, build confidence, and ease worries before the first day.
Here is Brittney’s expert list of back‑to‑school conversation starters – purposeful prompts that encourage meaningful dialogue, support emotional well‑being, and prepare kids to enter the school year with clarity and resilience.
- Explore routines together:
“Let’s think about what our new morning routine will look like. What is one thing you want to make sure we include so mornings feel calm?”
- Invite them to name their feelings:
“Starting a new school year can bring up a lot of different feelings at the exact same time. What are two different feelings you have about going back?”
- Gently open the door to worries:
“Is there anything about the new school year that feels a little nerve‑wracking or heavy?”
- Build confidence by reflecting on past growth:
“What is something you didn't know how to do at the beginning of last year that feels easy to you now?”
- Support resilience:
“Learning new things can feel uncomfortable at first. What can you say to yourself when something feels difficult this year?”
- Clarify how you can show up for them:
“If you have a challenging day at school, what is a way I can best support you when you get home?”
- Encourage kindness and empathy:
“There will be other kids who feel really nervous on the first day. What is a small way you could show kindness or make someone feel welcome?”
- Explore hopes for the classroom environment:
“What is one quality you hope your new teacher has? How do you want to show up in your classroom this year?”
- Tap into their social excitement:
“Are there any friends you are really looking forward to reconnecting with or are you hoping to meet some new faces?”
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